Dirty is still out of work. Some of the leads he had were not really positions that he could have filled. He is in a weird place; he has a lot of experience and with that was making a top salary. Most of the open positions are entry level architects making less than what I make. (Which we all know is NOTHING) Needless to say, he is freaking out. He is collecting unemployment, but again, it is a very large cut in his income. Which led us here: deep conversations about the future.
I can't say that I'm not disappointed that he hasn't found work yet, especially since my birthday and the holidays are coming up. I have mentioned my fears to him, and we talked about his as well. He feels badly that he is unable to buy me the gift that he wants to get me, and that he is not able to take me to the "fancy" restaurant that he had planned.
I don't really care about that stuff, honestly; but want him to snap out of the depression that he is in. On one hand he is more relaxed and giving now without work, but there is an underlying tension inside him. He feels trapped and I want to help him out... he's letting me little by little, but he has a lot of pride that holds him back. Stuff that we are working on together.
I will say that it is nice to have him be there when I get home from work with a hot meal and freshly folded laundry, and the extra nookie doesn't hurt either. OK, sometimes it does ;)
Tuesday, September 09, 2008
Wheels are Turning
Posted by Sloane at 12:05 PM
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It is a stage. It is part of the post-unemployed psychosis.
Sorry girl :( It must be a tough spot to be in.
sorry ya'll are going through this. I know how it feels . We've been through it about 10 yrs. ago. It's not fun!
Did you already send the email? I haven't gotten it yet.
We've been through it too. I think a lot of a man's self-identity comes through having a good job and being able to provide. When that's gone, even temporarily, it's SO difficult for a guy to deal with. Good luck to you guys, I'm sure he'll find something perfect for him soon.
Men have that pride thing and it's hard for them to accept anything when they are down.
Despite that fact, you both seem that you are working together to make it through things the best you can.
Hey, in that comment you left, you said you sent me an email, but I never got it. Can you try sending it again? I talked to Jason last night (dumb, I know) and the conversation ended with me hanging up and sobbing uncontrollably for 45 minutes straight. Needless to say, I look like total CRAP today! So I was just wondering what your email said, b/c I really value what you and Penny think, b/c you've kind of been through this journey with me it feels like. Anyways, thanks for being a good friend to me and giving me advice! :D
Yeah, that's the right email address: lisa.marie.johnson@hotmail.com, but for some reason it didn't come through...dang it!
Baby steps....
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